5 types of #women #men should #avoid

Here is a list of women guys should stay away from…!
Get-away-from-herWomen are always quick to state what they hate about men, trying to prove that it’s them who should work towards keeping the relationship going. However, it’s not always men who are to be blamed. Let’s face it, as there are things women hate about men, there are also quite a few things that men hate about women. Here are few kinds of women that men tend to stay away from:

Miss clingy
Believed to be every man’s worst fear, this type of woman frequently verbalises how desperate she is to get married. Clinginess is a big mix of insecurity, possessiveness, and other self-esteem issues. Men generally end up identifying such women only when they can are well into a relationship. Though such women initially appear to be independent, once they are in a relationship and feels safe, her neediness begins to manifest.

Miss I, me, myself
Unlike other women, these are the ones most men will give chance and try to win over, simply because these women are a challenge. Because of the strength these women possess most men tend to avoid commitment with them. However, they are captivated by this strength and view winning them over as conquest. These women have both, the competitiveness of a man and the sensitivity of a woman. In an instant, they can switch from being seductive to emotionally distant. In fact, they use their hatred for men as a shield to avoid being hurt.

Miss I’m the best
It is believed that successful women are the ones men tend to feel threatened by and to an extent it holds true. Actually, men are not threatened by successful women, but are of the opinion that successful women do not need them.

A lot of women often say that they do not need a man to make them happy, as they earn good money, own a house, and have a wonderful social life. Such women do not depend on men and this is what puts them off the list. Definitely men do not want a woman who is totally dependent on them, but when a confident woman allows herself to depend on them, man get flattered.

Miss chatter-box
For a man, a talkative woman is neither good nor bad. Most women are accused of being too talkative when, in reality, they are speaking more simply because they are discussing a subject that is of great interest to them and not just because women talk more. In a woman’s world, everyone speaks together. In the world of men, it is considered rude to speak out of turn and one is not to be interrupted by the other until he’s done. Therefore, when a woman asks a man a question and he proceeds to answer her – and then she begins to interject her opinions for the next 10 minutes – he’ll just quit trying.

Miss read my mind
For some reason, a woman expects her man to know exactly what she’s thinking at all times. As a result, she constantly tests him, using his responses to gauge his level of love. This type of behaviour should be avoided, as very few men are interested in dealing with the constant guessing games.

Your #parenting #style #carves #kids’ #personality

Ever wondered why your 20-something is obsessively hoarding on shoes? Probably, your denial to buy him shoes in his childhood has left a deep impact on his mind.

Your-parenting-style-carves-kids-personalitySo now that he has the purchasing power, he wants to splurge. This is just one example of how a child takes their childhood experience onto adulthood. Here are some instances on how parents’ behaviour can determine their child’s personality as an adult.

OVER-PROTECTIVE PARENT: LEADS TO CLINGY ADULT
A child growing under over-protective parents faces severe detachment problems as an adult. If you do not let the child face life in all its shades, they grow up to be excessively dependent, weak and seek help for trivial matters.
TIP: Such behaviour can restrict your child’s emotional intelligence. Give them an opportunity to explore the world, (physically and emotionally) without constant interference.

SUSPICIOUS PARENTS LEAD TO: LYING, DISTRUSTFUL ADULT
It’s okay to keep a check on your child, but overdoing it can hamper their trust instinct. The child will then panic at the sight of your call or message. To save face, they may even resort to lying. Over suspicious parents envision fear by putting this fear in their child, they raise suspicious adults with low confidence.
TIP: If you have an excessive urge to check on your kids, have a frank talk with them and see if they have a solution. For instance, they can call you every time they reach their friend’s house, instead of the other way round.

ABUSIVE PARENTS LEAD TO: EXTREME PERSONALITY
It’s alright to point out your child’s mistakes, but use of emotional or physical violence can scar them for life. Abusive parents permanently damage their child’s cognitive development leading to low self-esteem and confidence. Such children grow up to be extreme personalities — a total rebel or a doormat.
TIP: Identify the first signs of losing your temper. See if it’s the way your child talks or their mistakes that annoys you. Ease the tension at this very stage.

PUSHY PARENTS LEAD TO: SUICIDAL ADULTS
Pushy parents who want their kids to be winners all the time put them under extreme pressure leading to even nervous breakdowns or suicidal tendencies. Such parents find it hard to digest failure and they crush the child’s personality. Even as an adult, such kids strive to conform to others expectations, which, when unfulfilled, will create a feeling of worthlessness.
TIP: Share positive feelings with your children. Encourage kids even if they don’t win a competition.

COMPARING PARENTS LEAD TO: A SHOW OFF
Parents, who don’t empathise with their child are quick to deform their child’s personality. This leads to adults who harbour excessive feelings of worthlessness, low self-esteem and self-pity.
TIP: Even if you disagree with your child, use positivity. Avoid comparing siblings. Use phrases to build their self-esteem, and avoid phrases that hurt.

PASSIVE PARENTS LEAD TO: ARROGANT ADULTS
Parents, who don’t participate in their child’s activities or those who feel too sorry for being hard on their child, turn them into difficult adults. Such parents are often unable to say ‘no’ and the child grows up to be an overconfident person, who cannot accept their mistake or accept criticism positively.
TIP: Spend quality time with your kids. Do things together, such as painting, story telling, going to the park, etc. In case they make a mistake, point it out gently. Do not give in to your child’s whining, crying or temper tantrum, as it only reinforces the behaviour.

#Raita #recipes for #healthy #dinners

Raitas those delectable side dishes that can make any Indian meal more interesting in an instant, are not only easy to make, but offer a great variety too for extra punch.

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Raitas are healthy as they are made of yoghurt and the condiments too are healthy as they’re either fresh produce or whole spices. Serve these healthy and easy raitas with biryani, as a dip to add an Indian flavour, or simply on their own.

Mint cucumber raita
Ingredients – 2 cups thick yogurt (whisked till smooth), 1/2 cup mint leaves chopped fine, 1 large cucumber grated, 3/4 tsp cumin powder, 1/4 tsp red chilli powder, 1/2 tsp sugar, and salt to taste.

Method: Mix all the ingredients together in a large bowl and blend till mixed well.

Classic raita
Ingredients – 1 cucumber, 1 onion, 1 tomato, ½ – 1 cup greek yoghurt

Method – Dice the cucumbers, onion and tomato and toss them all together in a large bowl. Mix in the yogurt, starting with half a cup, and add more if necessary. Salt it to your liking and let it sit in the refrigerator for at least 30 minutes to get the best flavour out of your raita.

Channa raita
Ingredients – 2 cups yogurt, 1 cup boiled chickpeas (boil with salt to taste), 1 large green bell pepper/capsicum diced fine, 1 tsp chaat masala, 1 tsp sugar, 1 tsp lightly roasted cumin seeds ground coarsely, 1/2 tsp red chilli powder, and salt to taste.

Method – In a salad bowl, whisk the yogurt well to remove any lumps. Add all the remaining ingredients, taste and add salt if needed.

Avocado raita
Ingredients – 2 avocados, 1 medium onion chopped fine, 2 tomatoes chopped fine, 1 green chilli chopped fine, 1/2 tsp red chilli powder, 1 tsp cumin powder, 1/2 cup chopped fresh coriander leave, Juice of 1/2 lemon, 1 cup fresh unsweetened yogurt, and salt to taste.

Method – Remove flesh and seed from avocados and put in mixing bowl. Mash till smooth. Add onion, tomato, green chilli, all the spices and the lemon juice and chopped coriander. Mix all ingredients and blend with yoghurt.

Green onion raita
Ingredients – 2 cups thick yogurt (must not be sour) whisked till smooth, 1 large onion sliced very thin, 6-8 tbsps mint-coriander chutney, 1/4 cup fresh corainder leaves chopped fine, 1/4 tsp sugar, and salt to taste.

Method – Put yogurt, mint-coriander chutney, onions and sugar in a bowl and mix well to blend. Check for salt and add if required.

#Healthy #Indian #breakfast #ideas

Do you wonder about what to cook for breakfast every single day? With eggs, toast and cereal topping the list of all breakfast ideas across health journals, how about trying out some nutritious and healthy Indian breakfasts instead?

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Long blamed for being unhealthy, it is possible to enjoy delicious Indian food without spending hours putting breakfast together. But how is an Indian breakfast possible while maintaining a healthy lifestyle (especially weight loss efforts), you ask? Here are some great, healthy and delicious Indian breakfast ideas to help you do just that.

Steamed masala vada
Served along with sambhar and coconut chutney, masala vada is a medium sized cookie shaped, preferably steamed (though often deep fried), dumpling prepared with a mixture of channa dal, curry leaves, ginger and green chillies. A healthy way to prepare masala vada is to steam or bake them. Also, coconut chutney is high in calories, so eat controlled portions of it, or substitute with a tomato or coriander chutney. Method: Soak chana dal in water and blend it along with red chilli, cinnamon, besan. Now add the rest of the ingredients and steam the dumplings until they are golden in colour.

Paneer ka chilla
Ingredients: Water, 1 tablespoon oil, chilli powder, turmeric powder and dry coriander along with 1 cup besan and salt to taste. For the filling take half a cup of grated paneer, 1 finely chopped green chilli and coriander. Method: Heat oil in a pan. Mix the besan mixture in the pan until there are no lumps left in the mixture. Pour the mixture in the pan and lightly cook from both sides until golden brown. Fill in the paneer mixture when done and serve hot.

Dhokla
Ingredients: Dhokla is a traditional Gujarati delicacy which is prepared by mixing 1 cup curd, a few green chillies, 350 grams besan, 1 tablespoon ginger, 1 tablespoon eno, 1 few drops of lime juice and 1 pinch of turmeric powder. Method: Mix all the ingredients together and make a smooth batter. Now steam them. For tadka- mix oil, curry leaves, mustard seeds, chopped coriander and green chillies.

Poha
Ingredients: 1 potato, 1 onion, a few green chillies, 1 tablespoon chana dal, 1 tablespoon urad dal, a few curry leaves, 4-5 peanuts, 1 tablespoon oil, 2 cups poha (beaten rice), turmeric powder, salt to taste and lime juice. Method: Soak the poha in water for around an hour. Now prepare the tadka by heating oil and add urad dal, mustard seeds, chana dal, green chilles, curry leaves, onions and potatoes to it. Give it a nice stir and add the poha to the mixture. Let it stay on slow flame for 5-7 minutes. Yummy poha for breakfast is ready.

Spicy and tangy scrambled eggs
Ingredients: 2 egg whites, 1 tablespoon olive oil, soy sauce, tomato ketchup, 1 small onion finely chopped, a few coriander leaves, a few green chillies, 3 cloves of garlic chopped, black pepper, salt to taste. You can also add a few chopped vegetables if needed. Method: Heat olive oil in a frying pan and add the chopped onions and garlic to the pan. Mix well all the leftover ingredients in a bowl and whisk them well. Pour the mixture in the pan and cook until done. Serve hot with two slices of whole grain bread.

Stuffed aloo parantha with no oil
Ingredients: 2 cup wheat flour, 1 cup water, 1 boiled potato, red chilli powder, salt and chaat masala to taste. Method: Mix water and flour to form a soft dough. Now roll the dough into small circles and flatten it to the size of a roti. For the mixture, mix potatoes with all the ingredients and add it to the flatten dough. Now place the parantha over a preheated pan and let it cook from both side until golden brown. You can also substitute potatoes with nutritional vegetables like cabbage, cauliflower, or spinach.