Tiffs and arguments are an integral part of every relationship. Be it between siblings, friends or couples, fights are inevitable.
In fact, experts also go ahead to say that fights make a relationship more stronger. They are also known to keep that spark in the relationship alive, hence fighting, as a popular belief, is healthy. However, it is important to sort out differences and make up after a fight. Here’s a guide on a few things you should never do after a squabble.
Don’t fake a patch-up, if you don’t feel like it
Of course, you must attempt a patch-up, but never fake one. Patch-ups are usually difficult and don’t come easily after a really ugly argument. However, many of us try to fake a patch-up just in order to make things look normal, mostly for others, and sometimes for their own good. However, experts suggest never to attempt a fake one, since it is a sort of compromise that you tend to make with a situation. Faking make-ups instantly might look healthy, but can have long term side-effects since you need some time off to think about what went wrong.
Let things cool down
Do not hurry up to sort things out. Give your partner some cooling time, this will help sort out things easily and in a matured way. It is observed that most arguments need some time to be discussed and thought about, only then can a patch-up be done. In fact, if one of the person’s in the argument is short tempered, then letting him/her cool down is the best thing for the relationship to last longer.
Don’t focus on what caused the fight
Many of us make the basic mistake of focusing about the things that triggered the fight, this might add to further heated arguments, which is unhealthy for the relationship. Constantly thinking about the things that caused the fight might causefurther misunderstandings between the people. Always, remember to sort out issues and not pick up an old issue and start a fight.