The joys of turning 25 are often short-lived. Be it home or a gathering — when anyone learns that your age is 25, you are faced with a barrage of done-to-death statements. And this is how young Mumbaikars deal with it on a regular basis…
‘You’re old enough to get married now’
This is one statement that you are often subjected to. And if that is not enough, they also add that a 25-year-old is old enough to start a family and manage a house. However, not every young adult agrees. “If 25 is a milestone and a life-changing event, is marriage the only answer for it? Can’t I settle in a slightly different manner than what is expected out of me?” asks Kshipra Sharma, a law intern.
“More than my parents, it’s aunties in my society who harp about my marriage. And if they start getting chatty with you on instant messaging apps, you’re bombarded with photos and profiles of eligible bachelors. I’m tired of receiving good morning messages accompanied by a profile of prospect groom,” says Priyal Shah, graphic designer.
‘So you think you are independent and don’t need anyone?’
Money always tests your relationship. And it’s no different for a young adult, who’s trying to be independent. However, it’s a ‘Catch-22’ situation for this lot — try to be too independent, and they are taunted for not wanting their family around anymore. And if you keep borrowing money from your parents, then you are questioned for being too dependent on others. However, independent or not, you are still ‘marriage material’.
‘Aren’t you taking too many vacations?’
If you go out on official tours, you’re a career-oriented and focused girl, but if you plan a few trips with your friends after working hard for months, you’re irresponsible and just having fun. “My vacation pictures on social networking sites get noticed for sure, but then what follow are the barbs. “I’ll be accosted by some seniors in my areas with questions like ‘Wanderlust… is that what they call people who like being away from home, right?’ Sometimes it’s so funny that even pictures taken at work look like a long vacation to people. Basically, there is a problem if you enjoy your life according to norms,” says Jignasha Rathod, a cabin crew member.
‘Why do you come home so late?’
Why not? What different can she do in the night that she cannot in day time? “If you come late from work, then all eyes are on you. Somebody from your building is always watching you and it’s not your watchman. So whenever my shoots get delayed, I not only see eye-balls rolling, but it also reaches the monthly society meeting like some calamity has fallen on them,” says Bini Singh, a media personnel.