For most of us, ”It’s over” doesn’t mean that it’s over. It means more of ”let’s cut the commitment chord but continue to text/call each other because *insert your reason*” Yes, that sounds totally absurd as to why would someone want to still be in touch with their ex but we can’t really spell it out without reading their mind! Let’s list some valid reasons as to why our ex still wants to talk to us:
1. Attachment issues
‘Losing feelings’ or ‘It’s not working out anymore’ is the most common reason you’d come across for break ups. But what if love has died? Attachment still stays. Not everybody can move on in a jiffy. Some people need some attention even after they have broken up to make moving on smoother but as we all know, attachment is that one feeling that can totally make the process more difficult and mess things up!
2. Something is better than nothing?
”What if we’re not dating? We can at least talk and you know, be in touch? Because something is better than nothing!” This thought might sound selfish but hey, who cares? We’re all a little selfish at times and this is your time. If ‘something is better than nothing’ theory works well for you, then why not?
3. ”Let’s be friends’
Like it’s said ”If you’re still friends with your ex, either you’re still in love or you never were.” This is on the top of the list of valid reasons to stay in touch with your ex but one second? Who keeps a dead body after the death?
4. No strings attached
A very newfangled concept, a lot of people agreed that the reason they still are in touch with their ex is because of easy sex. You just can’t deny the fun in being with someone with no emotional attachment and still get what you want, which is pretty simple: sex.
5. Options open?
In all the contemporary relationships, this surely is one of the most legit reasons to be in touch with your ex. It makes hooking up a lot more easy. Why go out search for someone new when you know that there’s still somebody who would be a lot easier to get?
6. How can they forget about us?
Most of us don’t go well with the idea of cutting ties with our ex just because we can’t sync in to the idea of them forgetting about us and moving on with their lives that easily. However cruel it may sound, that’s human nature!
7. Just curious
‘What would he be doing right now?’, ‘What if she’s with someone else?’, ‘Has he moved on?’ There would be a flood of questions in our mind for our ex that we would want to know out of curiosity. Hence, to make things simple and keep the Sherlock in us calm, we decide to talk and keep ourselves updated with what’s happening in their lives.