Men and women have always been at each other’s necks for time immemorial. What is it that makes us so complicated? Why don’t men cry? Why do women get jealous? The answers have a psychological side to it..
The male-female war
It’s a common question. Why men don’t cry? The question goes into the same category of questions like; Why women get jealous? Why men can’t commit? Why women can’t stop talking? Oh well, we have our differences and it’s the psychology one has to delve into to realize some very interesting facts about men and women. In reality, we are very simple people with very complicated emotions. And hence, we’ve been at each others necks forever.
Men and women have a set of emotions they are “expected” to deliver. Women are weepy, emotional, sentimental and cry all the time. Men are intense, angry, stubborn, possesive and moody. A nagging woman is quite common but a man drowning his sorrows in tears.. a rarity. There is a copious amount of male ego involved here. Psycholgists say that “Emotions live in the background of a man’s life and the foreground of a woman’s”. Food for thought? It has always been said that women are more in touch with their emotions and that actually is true.
However, that does not mean that men aren’t capable of expressing. In fact, in a study of married couples, husbands proved to as tuned to their spouse’s stresslevels and were also capable of offering support. Psychologist, Kiran Nair says that the connection between the left brain and the right is much greater in women. “The left brain holds logic and the right holds all your emotions. Women are capable of shifting between the 2 sides. Men aren’t so much,” says Kiran. An interesting insight into the never ending battle between men and women, is Khushwant Singh’sWomen, Sex, Love and Lust.
If you’re looking for a debate on love, lust, women and the many nuances of the very same then this is a book you will love reading. Throw in a generous amount of K Singh’s humour and wit and you get a book that’s worth picking up. Singh skillfully analyzes the fine dividing line between obscenity, pornography and erotica, describing sex from Chaturbhani and his ideas on what the composite Indian woman is. Another book is, Men are from mars and Women are from Venus . The book gives us some insights about the do’s and don’ts in a relationship. In general, men and women have their ideas about a relationship quite mixed up. It’s not about sacrifice. But rather, it’s about understanding. “You never listen to me”… “You never spend time with me” are women’s favourite dialogues and “I don’t want to talk about it”… “can we change the topic?” are among a men’s favourites.
Our best advice, accept them as they are. We all have our quirks, but you don’t give up on someone you love. (As mushy as that sounds, its true)