The No. 1 #Way To #Bungle A #Job #Interview

Just about every time I walk into a Starbucks these days, I run into someone preparing for a job interview—and almost always they’re amped up on caffeine and headed for disaster. No matter how much they rehearse and prepare, they can’t avoid the No. 1 way to mess up a job interview: failing to master the mental game.

And it happened again.

While in a Starbucks the other day, I spotted a young man in a suit and tie, lip-syncing and gesturing with his hands—clearly rehearsing for something. Suddenly, he rushed away, leaving his laptop and briefcase on the table.

Fifteen minutes later, he returned—face pale, jacket off, shirt damp with sweat. He thanked me for keeping an eye on his stuff: “I threw up. This always happens to me before a job interview.”

This guy was a classic example of a disaster in the making: going over and over his resume, as if the hundredth time he practices saying he’s a “self-starter” and a “team player” with a “can-do attitude” will be the key to success. Making it worse, he already had a track record of interview failure. “It’s happened four times in a row,” he admitted. “I know what I want to say, but when I get in the interview I just freeze.”

When he went back to his one-man-show rehearsal, silently going through his “script,” I just had to stop him. “Sorry, but you need to change your approach—and fast.”  Here’s what I told him:

Get out of your own head: In the best case, a job interview is somewhere between a trip to Disneyland and a visit to the dentist to get your wisdom teeth extracted. You’re looking forward to it, but you also dread it. In the worst case (such as this guy), it’s all dentist, peering into the farthest reaches of your gum line and calmly saying, “You might feel a pinch (code for “this is going to hurt like hell”). Stop psyching yourself out!

You’re not auditioning for The VoiceAt the eleventh hour, there’s nothing on your resume that you haven’t read countless times before. Stop rehearsing! This isn’t time to decide how to answer the predictable, standard questions about your accomplishments, strengths and weaknesses, or how you picture yourself contributing. You should know that long before. In the hours before the interview, it’s not about content—it’s about composure.

You’re not being interrogated. No one is going to shine a light in your eyes and ask you where you were the night of the fourteenth. It’s a conversation, pure and simple. It starts from the moment you arrive. Smile at people, make small talk with everyone. Observe your surroundings and pick up on any detail—a picture on the wall, the view—that you can comment on to break the ice. During the interview, don’t wait until the end to ask questions. Make sure it’s a give-and-take between you and the interviewer(s). You’ll feel more relaxed and in control.

Think about your dog (or another loved one): No matter how much you want the job, this interview is not the most important thing in your life. Family, friends, your pet all outrank it, because they reflect who you are as a person. Keep a picture of what matters most to you on your phone or in your pocket. Just before heading into the interview, take a last look at that photo to keep your perspective about who loves you. Think about when the interview is over and you’re going home to see your family, relaxing with friends, walking your dog. Imagine how you’ll feel then. Picturing a successful outcome will go a long way to achieving that reality.

Breaking the cycle. The young man at Starbucks had more than two hours before his job interview two blocks away. If he sat there through 120 agonizing minutes, I doubted he’d even make it through building security. He needed to break his pattern. I asked him about his passion and interests outside of work—who he was, not just what he did. “Art,” he said, without hesitation. Across the street from the Starbucks was a museum. I reached in my pocket, pulled out a twenty and insisted he let me treat him to admission. “Go look at something beautiful,” I told him. “Change your thinking.” He protested a little—breaking the rehearsal habit was tough—then put away his resume, picked up his briefcase, thanked me, and headed for the door.

Later in the day, I received an email. “Loved the museum—great art. And, I’m headed for round two next week!!”

After conquering the mental game (and some stomach issues), nailing the interview was easy.


#Full #list of #Indian #public and #bank #holidays in #2019

Full list of public and bank holidays in 2019 in India.

Planning trips and going on adventure in the new year in your mind? Or booking your travelling arrangements soon enough to be with your families when the holidays come around in 2019? You will need a complete list of public holidays to set your plan in motion

Here you go then –

January 2019

1 Jan       Tuesday     New Year’s Day

13 Jan     Sunday      Guru Govind Singh Jayanti

13 Jan     Sunday      Lohri

14 Jan     Monday     Makar Sankranti

15 Jan     Tuesday     Pongal

26 Jan     Saturday    Republic Day

February 2019

10 Feb     Sunday       Vasant Panchami

19 Feb     Tuesday      Shivaji Jayanti

19 Feb     Tuesday      Guru Ravidas Jayanti

 March 2019

1 Mar       Friday              Maharishi Dayanand Saraswati Jayanti

4 Mar       Monday          Maha Shivaratri/Shivaratri

21 Mar     Thursday         March Equinox

20 Mar     Wednesday     Holika Dahana

21 Mar     Thursday         Holi

21 Mar     Thursday         Dolyatra

21 Mar     Thursday         Hazarat Ali’s Birthday

April 2019

6 Apr        Saturday        Chaitra Sukhladi

13 Apr      Saturday        Rama Navami

14 Apr      Sunday           Vaisakhi/Mesadi

14 Apr      Sunday           Ambedkar Jayanti

17 Apr      Wednesday    Mahavir Jayanti

18 Apr      Thursday        Maundy Thursday

19 Apr      Friday             Good Friday

21 Apr      Sunday           Easter Day

May 2019

1 May       Wednesday   May Day

18 May     Saturday         Buddha Purnima/Vesak

31 May     Friday             Jamat Ul-Vida

June 2019

5 Jun        Wednesday    Ramzan Id/Eid-ul-Fitar

21 Jun      Friday             June Solstice

July 2019

4 Jul         Thursday           Rath Yatra

August 2019

4 Aug       Sunday                Friendship Day

12 Aug     Monday              Bakr Id/Eid ul-Adha

15 Aug     Thursday             Independence Day

15 Aug     Thursday             Raksha Bandhan (Rakhi)

17 Aug     Saturday             Parsi New Year

24 Aug     Saturday             Janmashtami

September 2019

2 Sep         Monday               Ganesh Chaturthi/Vinayaka Chaturthi

10 Sep       Tuesday               Muharram/Ashura

11 Sep       Wednesday          Onam

23 Sep       Monday               September Equinox Season

October 2019

2 Oct          Wednesday         Mahatma Gandhi Jayanti

5 Oct          Saturday              Maha Saptami

6 Oct          Sunday                Maha Ashtami

7 Oct          Monday               Maha Navami

8 Oct          Tuesday               Dussehra

13 Oct        Sunday                Maharishi Valmiki Jayanti

17 Oct        Thursday             Karaka Chaturthi (Karva Chauth)

27 Oct        Sunday                Naraka Chaturdasi

27 Oct        Sunday                Diwali/Deepavali

28 Oct        Monday               Govardhan Puja

29 Oct        Tuesday               Bhai Duj

31 Oct        Thursday             Halloween

November 2019

2 Nov        Saturday               Chhat  Puja (Pratihar Sashthi/Surya Sashthi)

10 Nov      Sunday                  Milad un-Nabi/Id-e-Milad

12 Nov      Tuesday                 Guru Nanak Jayanti

24 Nov      Sunday                  Guru Tegh Bahadur’s Martyrdom Day

December 2019

22 Dec       Sunday                  December  Solstice Season

23 Dec       Monday                 First Day of Hanukkah

24 Dec       Tuesday                 Christmas Eve

25 Dec       Wednesday            Christmas

30 Dec       Monday                  Last day of Hanukkah

31 Dec       Tuesday                  New Year’s Eve

These #habits can make you #lose your #job in 10 #days

You can lose a guy in 10 days. You can lose job in 10 days as well. So, stop what you are doing and undo the damage by learning an alternate set of behaviours.

Like the Hollywood movie, How to lose a guy in 10 days, here is a take on how to lose your job in 10 days. There is also a long term plan in each case. What if you don’t wish to lose your job? Then figure out if you are applying any of these job-losing tactics unconsciously. Stop what you are doing and undo the damage by learning an alternate set of behaviours.

  • Day 1 Show up late

Turn up late for work. Repeat daily. This works even better if you have just joined your new job. Reach late for team discussions since you believe nothing gets done in the first 30 minutes. As a long-term tactic, make a habit of missing deadlines and staying absent from meetings. Keep people waiting where possible and make their work suffer.

  • Day 2 Bad dress day

Did you party a little too hard last night? Let everyone know by showing up at work hung over and with a reluctant attitude. Or arrive unkempt, still dressed in what you wore to bed. Fail to find time for a shower on weekdays. That’s what weekends are for. In the long term, apart from poor personal hygiene and being a eyesore, also ignore both stated and unspoken office etiquette, thus making people uncomfortable.

  • Day 3 Not my problem

Learn your job description inside out and stick to it meticulously. Refuse to do anything that was not specified earlier. Take no responsibility and offer no help if people ask for it. For an extended strategy, do not volunteer for extra projects and stay away from initiative and leadership. Be the kind of employee who barely gets a ‘Meets Expectations’ rating every year.

  • Day 4 Gossip master

Start your day by speaking ill about someone you interacted with yesterday. Share any secrets and personal details you may have learnt about a colleague. Aim to master the art of office gossip and negativity over time. In the long term, experiment with false stories that attract attention. Lack of integrity works very well when you are seeking to get fired.

  • Day 5 Conserve energy

Indulge in an ‘energy conservation day’ and avoid work altogether. Preferably call in sick day at office and head out to the mall to unwind. If you are at the office, take time to catch up with friends and family over the phone. In the long term, make sure you exhaust all your leave and use office time for personal work. Never double check your work, and ensure that your colleagues are surprised when you actually meet a deadline.

  • Day 6 Don’t speak

Silence is golden and today you will not speak. Ignore everyone because you are superior, or shy, or because no one is worth talking to. In the long term, keep to yourself and never get involved in any discussion. Shy away from professional conflict and connecting or bonding with colleagues. Never own up to your mistakes or apologise. Also, don’t step forward to claim credit for your work. Surprisingly, staying invisible at work does not protect you. It gets you fired for being irrelevant.

  • Day 7 Say it all

Today is the day to speak without any filter. Complain to everyone about everything that is wrong with the office and your job. Take time to speak to the HR about the exit policy and how much money you will receive if you quit. For an extended impact, hog the spotlight and take credit for everyone else’s work while pointing out their shortcomings in public.

  • Day 8 Don’t listen

Make work simple today by refusing to listen to everyone. Keep to yourself, walk away when someone is speaking and ignore all directions, suggestions and queries. In the long term, stop learning new stuff on the job. Refuse to change and claim, “It’s always been done this way”. You should soon find yourself making way for a replacement.

  • Day 9 Go Social

Spend time with your cell phone today. Invest all your hours in Instagram, Snapchat and WhatsApp. Make sure the world knows what you are doing every moment. Over time your employer will know that you are always available online through your social media accounts. So why bother calling you to the office?

  • Day 10 Boss around

If you haven’t been fired yet, here’s your instant fix for today. Abuse your boss in public and end it all with a slap. Don’t forget to pick up your bag while security escorts you outside. For a slower strategy, having an intimate personal relationship with your boss works the same way. The resentment of colleagues and senior managers to perceived favouritism and improper behaviour will cost you the job and a messy break-up will follow.