#Sex and #attraction: Not #beauty, but how you smell is what actually matters

Sexual attraction

You may want to make sure that you are smelling fresh before you head out for a date as a recent study has revealed that odour plays a big role in sexual attraction.

Extra-marital dating site Victoria Milan conducted a survey of 5,071 cheating adults from 12 countries to find out how big a role does smell play, the Daily Star reported.

53% of the women surveyed said that they prefer their guys to smell natural, while 63% of men would prefer their female lovers to be themselves too by letting their natural scent do the talking.

A massive 78% of women would go home alone rather than sleep with a man who smells bad. Men on the other hand are more likely to take what they can get: five in every 10 say they’ll put up with any stench once they have a lady in the bedroom.

The finding was the outcome of a survey conducted by extra-marital dating site Victoria Milan where they spoke to of 5,071 cheating adults from 12 countries. (Shutterstock)

Reeking badly was also proven to be a relationship deal-breaker because half of the ladies polled admitted to ending it purely because the smell of her partner didn’t please her.

Founder and CEO of Victoria Milan, Sigurd Vedal, said: “There’s no doubt that the scent of a lover is a strong emotional and sexual trigger — years after an affair has ended, you never forget how delicious they smelled.”

He added, “You can’t really control how you look, but you can control how you smell — and that’s a huge win, as we’ve revealed what the preference is for men and women across the globe.

Handling #adult #sibling #rivalry

• “If you aren’t talking to a sibling, start now,” says graphic designer Shalini Nair, 36.
• If you are afraid to trust your sibling or be open with them, ask yourself if the problem could be you.

Screaming, sulking, pillow fights and contemplating strangulation – your sibling can elicit many adverse reactions when you’re growing up. As adults, life events like weddings, careers and more, change you, your sibling and your relationship – sometimes not for the better. Bury the hatchet, the knife, the machete and the hammer, along with sibling animosity, with three steps.

Get rid of Baggage

The first step is to discard any tension and judgment your parents may have unknowingly created between the two of you. “To make your relationship with your sibling work, you have to edit your parents out,” says psychologist Melisha Kar. We often carry a lot of what we have learned through our families with us, even down to identifying ourselves as the good or bad child or the favourite child or the successful one; this can spill over into adulthood. “Starting with a clean slate allows you to see your siblings in a new and, hopefully, more positive light,” adds Kar.

Break the ice

“If you aren’t talking to a sibling, start now,” says graphic designer Shalini Nair, 36. “My sister and I stopped talking to each other for over two years. But after my daughter Reya was born, my husband encouraged me to set my feelings aside because Reya would want an aunt in her life.” Shalini’s husband convinced her that the relationship with siblings is the longest relationship in life. “This helped me make the effort to break the ice,” says Nair.

Are you the Problem?

If you are afraid to trust your sibling or be open with them, ask yourself if the problem could be you. “The question might not be whether you can trust your sibling, but whether you can trust yourself to deal with whatever they do,” says psychologist Dr Phil McGraw. “Trust yourself to come out from behind your wall, deal with what happens, and love them through it. If you have feelings of jealousy towards your sibling, ask yourself if you’re really resentful of his/her success or whether you just have a need that isn’t being met.”

If you need your sibling to acknowledge, explain or apologise for something, tell them. You may not get the answer you want, but at least, the problem is now out in the open instead of you festering all the resentment.

Paris and Nicki Hilton

While Paris got all the media attention initially, younger sister Nicki was the real party girl. These days, however, Nicki is working behind the scenes with fashion labels.

Liam and Noel Gallagher

The Oasis bandmates’ feud attracted plenty of media attention in 1994. After Liam altered the lyrics of one of Noel’s songs, a brawl ensued and the band’s split quickly followed.

Jessica and Ashlee Simpson

Ashlee came into the music scene four years after her older sister and penned Shadow, a song that hinted at years of jealousy and feeling neglected as Jessica rose to fame.

9 things never to say to your #child

There are certain things you should refrain from telling your children, here’s a look at some of them.

Being a parent is difficult and so is coming off as a proud child. It’s only human to give vent to your rage by using harsh words. However, when the recipient of your outrage is your own child, it might have uncertain and unmanageable repercussions.

We list 9 insensitive things that you should avoid saying to your child.

1. I was much more responsible when I was your age

Comparing your child and giving him an example of what all you were capable of when you were a kid is the first big mistake parents make. Their irritation stems from ‘expectations’ – expectations of bringing up the ‘perfect’ kid. Try and recall your shortcomings as a child and what all troubles you bothered your parents with. You are the elder one in the relationship hence you ought to know more. A statement such as this will break your child’s confidence.

2. You always end up taking wrong decisions

Don’t penalize your kid for being immature. Everyone is allowed to make mistakes and it is in fact a part of the learning process. He might have taken up a field of study that doesn’t interest you or perhaps working with a company that you’re not very proud of, but that doesn’t mean you accuse him of the decisions. Your job as a parent is to guide him, not force him to obey your opinions.

3. Why can’t you be more like your brother/sister?

This is once again an unreasonable comparison and a common one at that. Avoid seeding in animosity between your children by comparing their abilities. Doing so may create a fissure between the siblings. You don’t want your kid to harbour negative feelings for you, hence avoid assessing your kids.

4. Leave me alone!

Adults have huge responsibilities to take care of, responsibilities that children are innocently oblivious of. And there are times when we want to be left alone too. Kids are incapable of understanding the gravity of such situations. An impatient outburst of ‘Leave me alone!’ can make your child feel neglected, unwanted and depressed at the same time. Show some patience and avoid saying something bad to him.

5. You should be ashamed of yourself

This statement is outright harsh and saying such an awful thing to any child is simply ‘bad’. Yes, there are mischievous kids who go about pestering people with a devil-may-care attitude but that does not mean you reprimand him like this. There are better and milder ways to make the child understand the difference between good and bad.

6. You’re just like your father/mother

Not all married couples are happy living together and the bitterness in their relationship often translates into exchange of unkind words against each other. Some relationships end in separation too. Either ways, kids are a witness to this mutual hostility and criticism. So when you shower your partner’s animosity on your kid, that’s when he begins to lose respect.

7. You always find ways to hurt me

There are times when children hurt their parents’ sentiments by going against their wishes. Most times it is unintentional but there are kids who do so on purpose. However, saying something like the above statement would make your child feel guilty about his/her decision. He might comply with your demands to make you happy but you’d be taking away his right to happiness in the long run. Let your children take their own decisions and let them live a guilt-free life.

8. It’s better to be childless than have a kid like you

The above statement is mostly an extreme emotional outburst but can have grave consequences on the kid. Unquestionably, it is the most hurtful thing you can ever say to your child. No matter what the crisis is, saying something like this could make you regret for life.

9. Get rid of the bad company of your friends

We (read adults) don’t think before making friends. Neither do children. The only difference is that we know how to stay away from bad company and children don’t. Their friends mean the world to them and therefore you cannot just order them to get a new set of ‘good’ friends.

Does your little one suffer from #diaper #rash?

The main cause for that annoying rash on the bum and thighs of your baby are nappies or wet diapers that cause great discomfort.

Although the main cause for diaper rash is excessive wetness, other causes include tight diapers, humid climate, and not washing cloth nappies properly, which leaves residues of detergent in the nappy.

– Change your baby’s nappy as often as you can so as to keep their bottoms clean and dry.

– Letting your baby stay without a diaper for a few minutes helps the rash heal faster.

– Applying aloe vera gel on the rash keeps the skin free of moisture.

– When you keep dirty nappies for a wash, add half a cup of vinegar to the waterand rinse the diapers without using any detergents, which might be causing the rash in the first place.

– Petroleum jelly goes a long way in curing diaper rash effectively.

– Avoid using perfumed soaps or detergents to wash nappies — it might be the cause for the rash.

– Use a mild soap and lukewarm water instead of wipes to clean your baby.

– Always let the diaper area dry completely before making your baby wear another nappy.

– Add a little oatmeal to warm water when you’re giving your baby a bath.

– Avoid using diapers that have plastic edges.

– Dry your babies bottom gently with a soft towel or cotton — don’t scrub it.

– As much as you can, try and avoid using talcum powder on your baby , it can get into the little one’s lungs.